150 Relatable I Hate Myself Quotes To Express Self-hatred

There probably isn’t a single person on this planet that hasn’t had a love-hate relationship with themselves at some point. This collection of 150 I hate myself quotes will provide you with loads of relatable, comforting, deep, and eye-opening quotes on this matter!

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Top I Hate Myself Quotes

1. “I hate watching myself. It’s terrible. It’s horrifying.” – Scott Eastwood

2. “There is no greater tragedy than the tragedy of hating yourself because you will always have to live with that tragedy unless you start finding a way to love yourself!” – Mehmet Murat ildan

3. “The mind thinks thoughts that we don’t plan. It’s not as if we say, ‘At 9:10 I’m going to be filled with self-hatred.” – Sharon Salzberg

4. “Thinking that I’m a mistake is the real mistake.” ― Craig D. Lounsbrough

5. “To one’s enemies: “I hate myself more than you ever could.” – Alain de Botton

6. “I’m a ‘specist.’ I hate the human race. Of course, therefore, I hate myself the most, because I am the least of the human race. I’m the product of 6 million years of evolution? Come on, man.” – Peter Steele

7. “All chances of happiness are gone from me. Just being with myself is hell all the time anyway.” – Iris Murdoch

8. “If you had a person in your life treating you the way you treat yourself, you would have gotten rid of them a long time ago…” – Cheri Huber

9. “You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Gautama Buddha

10. “And so, for the first time, I began to feel a more general remorse — a feeling somewhere between self-pity and self-hatred — about my whole life.” – Julian Barnes

I Just Hate Myself Quotes

Here are some relatable I hate myself quotes that perfectly describe how you feel when you hate the person you’ve become:

1. “I can’t take it anymore. The waiting. The wanting. Something inside me snaps. I hate myself. I hate that I have to deal with this. I hate my life. And I hate how I can’t count on anyone to be completely there when I need them, exactly the way I need them to be.” – Susane Colasanti

2. “I hate myself for loving you and the weakness that it showed. You were just a painted face on a trip down to suicide road.” – Bob Dylan

3. “I hate myself, and I want to die’.” – Kurt Cobain

4. “Can’t break free from the things that you do. I wanna walk, but I run back to you, that’s why I hate myself for loving you.” – Joan Jett

5. “I’m afraid of being loved. Because “I love you this way” means the same thing as “I won’t love you anymore if you stop being this way”, doesn’t it?” – Nio Nakatani

6. “I don’t hate you for not loving me anymore, but I hate myself for still loving you.”

7. “I’m not important. Everyone will do just fine without me.”

8. “I hate myself more than I hate others. I’m miserly egoistic even with hate.”

9. “I don’t really care what you think about me because it’s guaranteed that you’ll never be able to hate me more than I hate myself, so go ahead.”

10. “I hate myself for liking you.” – Stephenie Meyer

11. “Sometimes I hate you, sometimes I hate myself, but always I miss you.” – David Henry Hwang

12. “Nobody sees that I’m dead inside.”

13. “Why should I love myself? No one else does!”

14. “I just hate feeling like this. I hate myself, for being ugly, fat, horrible, a weirdo, a freak, a bitch.”

15. “I have nobody in the world. I’ll kill myself. That’s best. Everyone will say, It’s for the best that she killed herself, she’s better off dead… I hate myself so much I could spend hours and hours just screaming with hatred and with the pain of it, oh the pain of it…” – Iris Murdoch

16. “I’m fat. I’m ugly. I’m worthless. I’m useless. I’m depressed. I’m not ok. I want to die. I hate myself.”

17. “No one cares. They’re just pretending!”

18. “If you give up on me, I’m going to give up on me too.”

19. “All I want to do now is cry and scream and let it all out because it’s killing me inside.”

20. “No one could ever hate me as much as I hate myself, okay? So any mean thing someone’s gonna think of to say about me, I’ve already said to me, about me, probably in the last half hour!”

21. “I am ruined. I am wrecked. I am dead. I turned out to be a terrible person.”

22. “I hate myself because I am not beautiful. I hate myself because I am fat.”

23. “I am so fucking sorry I don’t love myself, okay? I’m sorry that I am a goddamn inconvenience to you, and that I sound like a little bitch when I say I don’t like myself.”

24. “I don’t believe in man, God, nor the Devil. I hate the whole damned human race including myself.”

25. “I need to end this war against myself. It’s pointless and unhealthy.”

26. “I hated him. I hated them all. They made me hate myself even more than I already did.”

27. “I never cease to disappoint myself. I feel like a failure every single day.”

28. “I wish I could look in the mirror and like what I see.”

29. “I miss the old, happy me…”

30. “I’m so tired of existing. I’m so tired of living. I’m so tired of hating myself. I’m so tired of feeling so anxious over pathetic things. I’m so tired of being tired. I’m so tired of getting out of bed every day. I’m just so tired.”

31. “If I could change one thing about myself it would be the voices in my head. They don’t like me.”

32. “I’m not even a person anymore. I’m just stress and sadness.”

33. “It’s getting cold again and I can feel my bad habits slipping back into place.”

34. “No other feeling feels quite as defeating as knowing that when I wake up, I still hate the person I have become.”

35. “Pain is when you’re slowly dying on the inside and you’re way too weak to speak about it. So you keep silent and suffer alone.”

36. “At least I hate myself as much as I hate anybody else.” – Robert Crumb

37. “I really miss the person I used to be.”

38. “I’m so messed up mentally that I can’t even deal with the little things, nevermind the big issues in my life. And those big issues just make me hate me more.”

39. “I don’t like thugs, I don’t like nerds, I don’t like myself, I hate being disturbed.”

40. “I love people. I hate to be by myself.” – Chris Paul

41. “The saddest kind of sad is when your tears can’t even drop and you feel nothing. It’s like the world has just ended. You don’t cry, you don’t hear, you don’t see. You just stay there. For a second, the heart dies.”

Deep I Hate Myself Quotes

If you’re looking for some deep I hate myself quotes, you should take a look at these:

1. “When getting too used to ourselves, we begin to loathe ourselves, we soon realize that we are worse off, that self-hatred actually strengthens self-attachment.” – Emil M. Cioran

2. “The mistake ninety-nine percent of humanity made, as far as Fats could see, was being ashamed of what they were; lying about it, trying to be somebody else.” ― J.K. Rowling

3. “When you stop living your life based on what others think of you, real life begins. At that moment, you will finally see the door of self acceptance opened.” ― Shannon L. Alder

4. “People say to the mentally ill, ‘You know so many people think the world of you.’ But when they don’t like themselves they don’t notice anything. They don’t care about what people think of them. When you hate yourself, whatever people say, it doesn’t make sense. ‘Why do they like me? Why do they care about me?’ Because you don’t care about yourself at all.” ― Richey Edwards

5. “You can rebel against who you are, but that does not make you any less of who you are. And if ‘who you are’ can stand against that kind of assault, ‘who you are’ must be a pretty incredible thing.” ― Craig D. Lounsbrough

6. “The initiation of self mutilation represents the erosion of ones own internal spirit of life and creation that drives us to help ourselves and improve things for others and as such the now fractured fragments of one’s own inner being instill within us an unyielding desire to self-destruct as one final act of rebellion against that which has inflicted without mercy continued barrages of hostility that transformed you into the life hating creature you now live as.” ― The Britiannic Scribian

7. “There must be a German word for this feeling, when the elaborate contortions of your own thinking rose to the surface and became suddenly and unpleasantly visible. Like walking past a mirror in a crowded mall and thinking: Who is that dude with the terrible posture, and why is he cringing like he expects someone to punch him, I’d like to punch him—oh wait, that’s me.” – Kristen Roupenian

8. “Don’t you ever wonder if God gets really hurt? When you say, ‘I hate myself’ or ‘I’m ugly’ but he spent so much time creating you…”

9. “You are so much more than you are willing to accept, child.” ― Brandon Sanderson

10. “The old saying goes, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Yet, my own negative self-talk is certain to make my words both sticks and stones.” ― Craig D. Lounsbrough

11. “I cannot love anyone if I hate myself. That is the reason why we feel so extremely uncomfortable in the presence of people who are noted for their special virtuousness, for they radiate an atmosphere of the torture they inflict on themselves. That is not a virtue but a vice.” – Carl Jung

12. “It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.” – John Joseph Powell

13. “I wanted to kill the me underneath. That fact haunted my days and nights. When you realize you hate yourself so much, when you realize that you cannot stand who you are, and this deep spite has been the motivation behind your behavior for many years, your brain can’t quite deal with it. It will try very hard to avoid that realization; it will try, in a last-ditch effort to keep your remaining parts alive, to remake the rest of you.” – Marya Hornbacher

14. “Accomplishments don’t erase shame, hatred, cruelty, silence, ignorance, discrimination, low self-esteem or immorality. It covers it up, with a creative version of pride and ego. Only restitution, forgiving yourself and others, compassion, repentance and living with dignity will ever erase the past.” ― Shannon L. Alder

15. “Self-hate takes a person only so far. Bitterness and self-loathing might spur a person towards seeking personal improvement. To live productively and happily one must find internal peace.” ― Kilroy J. Oldster

16. “A destructive or creative state of psychological madness must trace itself to a source. By finding the source of their misery, a person might be able to corral the crazy desire prematurely to terminate their existence. An old saying suggests that self-hatred is the central cause of all self-destructive actions. Self-hate might consist of anger that we harbor towards other people who maltreated us.” – Kilroy J. Oldster

17. “But they tell you that if you hate yourself hard enough, you can grab just a tail feather or two of perfection. Chasing perfection was your duty and your birthright, as a woman, and I would never know what it was like—this thing, this most important thing for girls.” ― Lindy West

18. “Hatred is the stuff that we turn on others because we turned it on ourselves first.” ― Craig D. Lounsbrough

19. “If I’m not talking myself out of depression, I’m talking myself into depression.” ― Curtis Tyrone Jones

20. “You can’t hammer yourself with hatred and build a life of happiness.” ― Curtis Tyrone Jones

21. “Genuine self-love is the most profound experience in the universe. However, it usually takes time, sincere dedication, and discipline to develop. We are surrounded by so many images, beliefs, and behaviors that reinforce the idea of self-hatred every day that it can be extremely difficult for us to connect to the love inside of us.” ― Mateo Sol

22. “If the pursuit of perfection is a way to prove our worth, in the end the pursuit will only prove our imperfections.” ― Craig D. Lounsbrough

23. “Am I being unfair? Is it only my self-hatred playing me a trick? Self-hatred is a gendered feeling: in a man it makes him a wimp; in a woman it’s the natural order to feel defective.” ― Jens Christian Grøndahl

24. “Unless I assassinate my pernicious ego, I will continue to experience life as a revolving wheel of anguish, suffering, guilt, remorse, and self-hatred.” ― Kilroy J. Oldster

25. “A lot is being done to cure physical self-harm, and yet it’s a by-product of mental self-harm!” ― Maddy Malhotra

26. “Programmed in self-hatred, many of us shadow-box the light of day away and chase everything meaningless the night through until we perish more ignorant and con“

27. Your skin is your skin. Your legs are your legs. Your hair is your hair. Your smile is your smile. Your past is your past. You can waste your life hating these things, but you may as well learn to accept them. Both routes are difficult and full of pain, but with acceptance, you will be happy one day, while with hatred, you never will.” ― Vironika Tugaleva

28. “If we demand perfection from ourselves we are not living in the real world…The inherent problem in the relationship between the ideal & the real is that the ideal judges the real as unacceptable and brings down condemnation and wrath on the real. This sets up an adversarial relationship between the two and like all adversaries, they move further and further apart.” ― Henry Cloud

29. “Self-hatred is the best vehicle for making people do as they’re told because they are hungry to get approval.” ― Melinda Gebbie

30. “Self-hatred is self-imprisonment. Self-forgiveness is self-liberation. You have the right to suppress yourself, oppress yourself and depress yourself. You have the right to impress yourself too. Feel happy!” ― Israelmore Ayivor

31. “It is foolishness to want what never was or will never be, lament the passage of time, and live in fearfulness of an uncertain future. The moods generated by regret including depression and self-loathing congeal in our sentient consciousness creating the painful landscape of the self.” ― Kilroy J. Oldster

32. “The tragedy of life is not that it ends so soon, but that we wait so long to begin it.” – William Mather Lewis

33. “We do unto others as we do unto ourselves. We hate others when we hate ourselves. We are tolerant toward others when we tolerate ourselves. We forgive others when we forgive ourselves.” – Eric Hoffer

34. “Depression can be a form of self hatred. We don’t feel comfortable in our own skin.” ― Michele Mcknight Baker

Meaningful I Hate Myself Quotes

These I hate myself quotes will offer you a different perspective on this matter:

1. “If I have made one unpardonable error in my life, it’s to deny, all the time, that there are people who might genuinely love me.” – Steve Toltz

2. “I want to look into a mirror that will love my own reflection harder than I hate myself.” – Meggie Royer

3. “She doesn’t think she’s worthy to live. But she doesn’t realize, she is life.” ― Derek Raymond

4. “Meal isn’t over when I’m full. Meal’s over when I hate myself.” – Patton Oswalt

5. “You are greater than you can possibly imagine, if you would only free yourself up to imagine.” ― Craig D. Lounsbrough

6. “He leaned down and whispered to me: No matter how thin you get, no matter how short you cut your hair, it’s still going to be you underneath. And he let go of my arm and walked back down the hall.” ― Marya Hornbacher

7. “You deserve better. I can’t promise you I’ll stay around, not because I don’t want to. It’s hard to explain. I’m a fuckup. I’m broken, and no one can fix it. I’ve tried. I’m still trying. I can’t love anyone because it’s not fair to anyone who loves me back.” ― Jennifer Niven

8. “Being here alone with nothing to do, I’ve been thinking about myself too. Trying to understand why I hate myself so badly.” – Orson Scott Card

9. “I just hate talking about myself.” – Miuccia Prada

10. “Self-hatred is worse than loneliness.” ― John Irving

11. “The thing that sucks about mental illness is that if you aren’t depressed enough, suicidal enough, bad enough, nobody cares. Nobody cares until you reach their standard, and that standard is when your problem is bad enough to affect them.”

12. “Nobody knows the real me. Nobody knows how many times I’ve cried in my room when nobody was watching. Nobody knows how many times I’ve lost hope, how many times I’ve been let down. Nobody knows the thoughts that go through my head when I’m sad, how horrible they truly are. Nobody. Knows. Me.”

13. “…I hate myself for not being able to go downstairs naturally and seek comfort in numbers. I hate myself for having to sit here and be torn between I know not what within me.” – Sylvia Plath

14. “I was still searching for someone to blame for my suffering. I really wanted someone to transfer my hate to, so that I could stop hating myself.”

15. “They tell me to smile, laugh, and exercise more and I will feel better, but the more I smile the more my soul dies inside.”

16. “Each day of not writing, of comfort, of being that which he despised, dulled his ability and softened his will to work so that, finally, he did no work at all.” ― Ernest Hemingway

17. “It’s hard loving those who don’t much like themselves: “If you’re so great, why would you think I’m so great.” ― Alain de Botton

18. “I had to sever my emotional cord to escape the anger and shame that silently slithered through my head, disconnecting myself from the stares and whispers that followed me down the hall.” ― Rebecca Donovan

19. “If I don’t write, I hate myself. Simple as that. My life is out of balance.” – Harlan Coben

20. “My demons, though quiet, are never quite silenced. They wait patiently for a reason to wake, take an overdue breath, and crawl back to my ear.”

21. “I was making love to this girl and she started crying. I said, “Are you going to hate yourself in the morning?” She said, “No, I hate myself now.” – Rodney Dangerfield

22. “I see beauty in everything but me…”

23. “Why do I smile like nothing is wrong? And how does not one person notice that I’m not okay?”

24. “Sometimes I get so sad that it’s hard to breathe. So tell me how do you expect me to talk about my demons when they’re sitting on my lungs?”

25. “I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

26. “Does anyone else find it crazy that you can be so fu***** depressed and no one around you notices? Not your parents, your siblings, your friends, your teachers, your classmates, no one. Like you can literally be on the verge of tears, drowning, and everyone is totally oblivious.”

27. “I need one of those long hugs where you kinda forget whatever else is happening around you for a minute.” – Marilyn Monroe

28. “The worst thing after waking up? Everything until I go to bed again.”

29. “Breathing is hard. When you cry so much, it makes you realize that breathing is hard.” – David Levithan

30. “I’m a person who hides a thousand feelings behind the happiest smile.”

31. “All is going well, very well, I couldn’t ask for anything better— So why do I hate my life?” – Orson Scott Card

32. “Being alone with your feelings is the worst because you have nowhere to run. They’re here, dancing in your mind and there’s nothing you can do.”

33. “I tell everyone I’m fine, when in reality I hate myself.”

34. “All my life people have been waiting around to watch me die.” – Evel Knievel

35. “What would you do if I told you that I want to die?”

Self-hatred Quotes

Finally, here are some I hate myself quotes that hit hard:

1. “All hatred of others is a reflection of self-hatred. All love of others is a reflection of self-love.” ― Alan Cohen

2. “I don’t have to say so because people can see it from leagues away. I am ugly, shy and anachronistic, but by dint of not wanting to be those things I have pretended to be just the opposite.” ― Gabriel García Márquez

3. “You wake up and you feel – what? Heaviness, an ache inside, a weight, yes. A soft crumpling of the flesh. A feeling like all the surfaces inside you have been rubbed raw. A voice in your head – no, not voices, not like hearing voices, nothing that crazy, just your own inner voice, the one that says ‘Turn left at the corner’ or ‘Don’t forget to stop at the post office,’ only now it’s saying, ‘I hate myself.’ It’s saying, ‘I want to die.’“ – Carolyn Parkhurst

4. “I am much too influenced by people’s manner towards me — especially Anna’s I suppose. Directly people attack me, I think they are right, and hate myself, and then I hate them—the more I like them this is so.” ― Elizabeth Bowen

5. “Deep in the secret chambers of my heart I muse my life-long hate, and without flinch I bear it nobly as I live my part.” – Claude McKay

6. “I’m stuck struggling in the cold water, and all I can do is grieve, grieve, in the hoar necessitous horror of the morning, bitterly I hate myself, bitterly it’s too late yet while I feel better I still feel ephemeral and unreal and unable to straighten my thoughts or even really grieve, in fact I feel too stupid to be really bitter, in short I don’t know what I’m doing and I’m being told what to do.” – Jack Kerouac

7.“What do you think you know about me!? This is all I am! I have high hopes even though I’m powerless; I have all these dreams even though I’m dumb; I keep trying even though I can’t do anything! I hate myself! I’m always nothing but talk! I’m worse than useless, but I’m still a world-class complainer! Who the hell do I think I am?! How dare I live such a shameful life this long?! I’m empty. I’ve got nothing inside me.” – Tappei Nagatsuki

8. “Nothing wrong with changing your mind. That’s a very unwaffling thing to say: “Nothing wrong…” Who am I to say that there’s nothing wrong with it? Maybe something is wrong with changing your mind. Anyway, love is very, very difficult. I love. But probably because I hate myself on some deep, sick level, it makes loving difficult. But I do try.” – Jonathan Ames

9. “…I hate myself. I feel like an idiot saying it because, blah, blah, teen angst, boo hoo, but I do. I hate myself. Almost all the time. I try not to tell anyone because I don’t want to burden them, but I feel like I’m falling farther and farther away from them. Like the well’s getting deeper and I’m running out of energy to climb it and any minute now, any second, it’s going to stop being worth even trying.” ― Patrick Ness

10. “You can borrow an identity if you want. But that’s something akin to spending the whole of your life in a fitting room full of clothes that never fit because you’re embarrassed by the ones that do.” ― Craig D. Lounsbrough

11. “I want a girl because I want to bring her up so that she shan’t make the mistakes I’ve made. When I look back upon the girl I was I hate myself. But I never had a chance. I’m going to bring up my daughter so that she’s free and can stand on her own feet.” – W. Somerset Maugham

12. “Do you hate yourself I wonder? You can’t expect others to accept you until you’ve been able to accept yourself. Sometimes I think I can really feel the pain. I’ve been there, I live there. But if you can make it through, nothing will beat you. You know the madhouses are full of emotional suicides. Let’s just take it day by day.” ― Scott C. Holstad

13. “The attempt to force human beings to despise themselves is what I call hell.” ― Andre Malraux

14. “Self-hatred is the inevitable byproduct of the culture of narcissism in which we all have been reared. We learn from day one how special and wonderful we are. Or conversely, and perhaps more pervasively, we do not learn this at all and instead are subjected to glorified views of others through the media whom we idealize and envy. At the root of it all are inappropriate expectations about life, about ourselves, and an overvaluation of self that breeds profound isolation.” ― Melissa Grabau

15. “There’s a big difference, I discovered, between wanting to die and not wanting to live. When you want to die, you at least have a goal. When you don’t want to live, you’re really just empty.” – Marilyn Manson

16. “I am far too often the author of terribly poor decisions. Yet I must rest in the unalterable fact that God says I am far better than what the sum total of those decisions would ever suggest.” ― Craig D. Lounsbrough

17. “In the crowded room with the view of the Hudson, the realization that ours was a stillborn love began to cramp something in me. It wasn’t going to kill me, but I wanted to find a corner somewhere in this large apartment where I could be alone and hate myself.” ― André Aciman

18. “As soon as I decided I’d have to dig down still deeper to uncover the root of my listless withdrawal from life, I became aware of some interference from the past distracting and confusing my thoughts, causing me a sensation that was at the same time oppressive, expectant and empty.” – Anna Kavan

19. “I felt alone, my loneliness suffocated me, and I craved to scream, shout, and kill me while seeing all this. However, self-hatred also occupied me.” ― Shaikh Ashraf

20. “Perhaps the most liberating moment in my life was when I realized that my self-loathing was not a product of my inadequacy but, rather, a product of my thoughts.” ― Vironika Tugaleva

21. “I’m very picky, and I’m never 100% happy with the work I do; I hate watching myself and hearing my voice. “ – Samantha Mumba

22. “I hate my life. I’m at the point where I want to hear about other people’s lives. It’s like switching from fiction to biography.” – Don DeLillo

23. “I hate taking myself seriously. It drives me crazy!” – Liana Liberato

24. “Playing in front of millions of people erases everything I hate about myself. Nothing can hurt me.” – Gerard Way

25. “Beware of that monster called ‘self-loathing’.” ― John Green

26. “We hated pretentiousness; it was a form of self-hatred.” ― Aleksandar Hemon

27. “Unreasonable self-criticism represents a form of self-hatred and fear.” ― Bryant McGill

28. “Sometimes the worst place you can be is in your own head.”

29. “I had always thought the world was good, that everyone could find the beauty in themselves. Everyone could honor, and forgive, and live a full and gorgeous life, even when the hands they’d been dealt weren’t easy.” – Brenna Yovanoff

30. “As the light begins to intensify, so does my misery, and I wonder how it is possible to hurt so much when nothing is wrong.” – Tabitha Suzuma

Final Thoughts

We’ve reached the end of my collection of I hate myself quotes.

I hope you found it helpful.

I also hope that whatever that’s making you hate yourself will go away as soon as possible!

You should be proud of yourself and how far you’ve come.

I know it’s easier said than done, but you’re a strong person who can overcome any challenges.

There are so many things which can make us start loathing ourselves, but it’s only us who have the power to change our attitude towards ourselves.

Finally, feel free to share your favorite inspirational quotes on social media or with your friends and family.

Express your thoughts and feelings – you’ll feel better. You’ll learn that you’re not alone.

Until next time!