It Ends With Us by Colleen Hoover is, despite its sad and tragic story about childhood, love, and toxic relationships, a truly inspirational book.
It offers deep insight into the topic we are afraid to tackle – domestic abuse.
I’ve compiled a list of 90 It Ends With Us quotes everyone should read and learn from. Let’s get started!
10 Best It Ends With Us Quotes
1. “I hope you defy the odds of most dreams and actually accomplish yours.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
2. “Our eyes, locked together, speak more naked truths than our mouths ever have.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
3. “Do you have any idea how many doors I’ve knocked on to find you.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
4. “Just because we didn’t end up on the same wave, doesn’t mean we aren’t still a part of the same ocean.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
5. “You’re only human. And as humans, we can’t expect to shoulder all of our pain.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
6. “There is no such thing as bad people. We’re all just people who sometimes do bad things.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
7. “It stops here. With me and you. It ends with us.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
8. “In the future, if by some miracle you ever find yourself in the position to fall in love again . . . fall in love with me.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
9. “And as hard as this choice is, we break the pattern before the pattern breaks us.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
10. “Preventing your heart from forgiving someone you love is actually a hell of a lot harder than simply forgiving them.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
Unforgettable It Ends With Us Quotes
1. “You are my wife. I’m supposed to be the one who protects you from the monsters. I’m not supposed to be one.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
2. “You’re going to drive five miles just to give me a hug?”
“I’d run five miles just to give you a hug.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
3. “He presses his lips against my forehead. “You’re still my favorite person, Lily. Always will be.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends with Us
4. “You can stop swimming now, Lily. We finally reached the shore.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
5. “My mother went through it. I went through it. I’ll be damned if I allow my daughter to go through it.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
6. “And when you love someone, seeing them sad also makes you sad.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
7. “As his daughter, I loved him. But as a human, I hated him.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
8. “I think about how sometimes, no matter how convinced you are that your life will turn out a certain way, all that certainty can be washed away with a simple change in tide.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
9. “We’ll still give them what they want, of course. But we’ll also give them what they don’t know they want.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
10. “Fifteen seconds. That’s all it takes to completely change everything about a person. Fifteen.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
11. “No one in the history of my life has ever crawled under my skin and refused to leave like you did.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
12. “And sometimes when I feel that much emotion, something inside of me just snaps.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
13. “We’d just been two people who helped each other when we needed it and got our hearts fused together along the way.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
14. “My favorite conversations are the ones with no real answers.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
15. “I love it when the night sky makes me feel insignificant.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
16. “I smile, loving how his words feel against my skin. Inside my heart.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
17. “In all the time we’ve spent together, I think we both sort of knew this wasn’t a forever thing. I’m not sure why because I could easily love him that way.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
18. “Maybe the idea of love ending being a negative thing is simply a matter of perspective. Because to me, the idea that a love came to an end means that, at some point, there was love that existed. And there was a time in my life, before you, when I was completely untouched by it.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
19. “I don’t know how he calmed me down without even talking, but he did. Some people just have a calming presence about them and he’s one of those people.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
20. “I’ll keep pretending to swim, when really all I’m doing is floating. Barely keeping my head above water.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
21. “I love him. I still do and I always will. He was a huge wave that left a lot of imprint on my life, and I’ll feel the weight of that love until I die. I’ve accepted that.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
22. “You don’t put pressure on me to be something I’m incapable of being. You accept me exactly how I am.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
23. “You warned me. You said one time with you wouldn’t be enough. You said you were like a drug. But you failed to tell me you were the most addictive kind.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
24. “When my life is good enough for you to be a part of it, I’ll come find you. But I don’t want you to wait around for me, because that might never happen.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
25. “It should be a lot harder, but the more I’m around death, the more it just becomes a part of life. I’m not sure how I feel about that.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
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Brilliant It Ends With Us Quotes
1. “Maybe love isn’t something that comes full circle. It just ebbs and flows, in and out, just like the people in our lives.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
2. “Naked truths aren’t always pretty.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
3. “Cycles exist because they are excruciating to break.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
4. “Shouldn’t there be more distaste in our mouths for the abusers than for those who continue to love the abusers?” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
5. “No one is exclusively bad, nor is anyone exclusively good. Some are just forced to work harder at suppressing the bad.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
6. “You have to start over. That’s what they say. But life is not a board game, and losing a loved one is never really “starting over”. More like “continuing without”.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
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7. “But sometimes you can’t control where your mind goes. You just have to train it not to go there anymore.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
8. “People spend so much time wondering why the women don’t leave. Where are all the people who wonder why men are even abusive? Isn’t that where the only blame should be placed?”
9. “Sometimes – not very often at all, actually – a voice will penetrate past my ears and reverberate straight down through my body.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
10. “It’s not a person’s actions that hurt the most. It’s the love. If there was no love attached to the action, the pain would be a little easier to bear.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
11. “Sometimes it seems easier to just keep running in the same familiar circles, rather than facing the fear of jumping and possibly not landing on your feet.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
12. “Sometimes an unexpected wave comes along, sucks you up and refuses to spit you back out. Ryle is my unexpected tidal wave, and right now I’m skimming the beautiful surface.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
13. “When you experience it firsthand, it isn’t so easy to hate the person who mistreats you when most of the time they’re your godsend.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
14. “I was too mad. I’m not even sure who I’m mad at. I just kept thinking about our country and the whole world and how screwed up it is that people don’t do more for each other.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
15. “Not a lot of people have the courage to say what they’re actually thinking.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
16. “I feel his voice in my stomach. That’s not good. Voices should stop at the ears, but sometimes- not very often at all, actually- a voice will penetrate past my ears and reverberate straight down through my body.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
17. “But then this morning I had to tell him goodbye. And he held me and kissed me so much, I thought I might die if he let go. But I didn’t die. Because he let go and here I am. Still living. Still breathing. Just barely.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
18. “The fact that you are who you are is the best example I know of the power of free will, of the individual. No matter what we find encoded in our genes, it will say nothing about who you are. Human behavior is much more complex than that.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
19. “It was hard, being let go by someone who had never really grabbed hold of me completely in the first place.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
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20. “We are not just a product of our genes. We are all a product of many, many things: genes and environment, nature and nurture.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
21. “I bury my head in my hands to take a moment. I quietly grieve what could have been. What is, what wasn’t.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
22. “We’re just alike,… Plants and humans. Plants need to be loved the right way in order to survive. So do humans. We rely on our parents from birth to love us enough to keep us alive. And if our parents show us the right kind of love, we turn out as better humans overall. But if we’re neglected . . we’re neglected, we end up homeless and incapable of anything meaningful.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
23. “My whole life, I knew exactly what I’d do if a man ever treated me the way my father treated my mother. It was simple. I would leave and it would never happen again. But…” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
24. “I don’t like that I was never fully able to let go of him, no matter how hard I tried.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
25. “I didn’t want to remember him. If I had to remember him, it would mean he wasn’t a part of my life anymore.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
It Ends With Us Quotes To Teach You Important Lessons
1. “It takes an astronomical amount of pain and courage to disrupt a familiar pattern.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
2. “Don’t tempt the scorpion if you don’t want to get stung.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
3. “I would beg her to leave him. I would tell her that she is worth so much more.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
4. “But it gets really hard to swim when you feel like you’re anchored in the water.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
5. “Everyone deserves another chance. Especially the people who mean the most to you.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
6. “Every incident chips away at your limit. Every time you choose to stay, it makes the next time that much harder to leave. Eventually, you lose sight of your limit altogether, because you start to think, ‘I’ve lasted five years now. What’s five more?” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
7. “When life gets you down do you wanna know what you’ve gotta do? . . . Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
8. “Life is a funny thing. We only get so many years to live it, so we have to do everything we can to make sure those years are as full as they can be. We shouldn’t waste time on things that might happen someday, or maybe even never.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
9. “The last thing you want to do is lose sight of your limit. Please don’t allow that to happen….. We all have a limit. What we’re willing to put up with before we break.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
10. “Some risks are never worth taking. Especially when those risks failed you in the past.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
11. “All humans make mistakes. What determines a person’s character aren’t the mistakes we make. It is how we take those mistakes and turn them into lessons rather than excuses.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
12. “We only get so many years to live it, so we have to do everything we can to make sure those years are as full as they can be. We shouldn’t waste time on things that might happen someday, or maybe even never.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
13. In the last fifteen minutes, he lost the love of his life. In the last fifteen minutes, he became a father to a beautiful little girl. That’s what fifteen minutes can do to a person. It can destroy them. It can save them.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
14. “But sometimes the things that matter to you most are also the things that hurt you the most. And in order to get over that hurt, you have to sever all the extensions that keep you tethered to that pain.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
15. “But an act doesn’t have to be forgiven in order to learn from it.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
16. “I feel like everyone fakes who they really are when deep down we’re all equal amounts of screwed up. Some of us are just better at hiding it than others.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
17. “Sometimes we have to share it with the people who love us so we don’t come crashing down from the weight of it all. But I can’t help you unless I know you need it. Ask me for help. We’ll get through this, I know we can.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
18. “I actually think that’s respectable, Ryle. A lot of people refuse to admit they might be too selfish to have children.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
19. “I know that you believe he loves you,and I’m sure he does. But he’s not loving you the right way. He doesn’t love you the way you deserve to be loved. If Ryle truly loves you, he wouldn’t allow you to take him back. He would make the decision to leave you himself so that he knows for a fact he can never hurt you again. That’s the kind of love a woman deserves, Lily.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
20. “Instead of helping others, people use the worst-case scenarios to excuse their own selfishness and greed.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
21. “Imagine all the people you meet in your life. There are so many. They come in like waves, trickling in and out with the tide. Some waves are much bigger and make more of an impact than others. Sometimes the waves bring with them things from deep in the bottom of the sea and they leave those things tossed onto the shore. Imprints against the grains of sand that prove the waves had once been there, long after the tide recedes.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
22. “I think that’s one of the biggest signs a person has matured – knowing how to appreciate things that matter to others, even if they don’t matter very much to you.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
23. “Where are all the people who wonder why the men are even abusive? Isn’t that where the only blame should be placed?” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
24. “Not once did I think I would come over here and learn from her. I should know better. I thought my mother was weak in the past, but she’s actually one of the strongest women I know.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
25. “But it’ll feel better. This is just human nature, healing an old wound to prepare for a fresh new layer. That’s all.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
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26. “I’m sure there’s more substance in the love between two adults than there is between two teenagers. There’s probably more maturity, more respect, more responsibility. But no matter how different the substance of a love might be at different ages in a person’s life, I know that love still has to weigh the same.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
27. “Marriage is about compromise. It’s about doing what’s best for the couple as a whole, not individually.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
28. “We all have a limit. What we’re willing to put up with before we break. When I married your father, I knew exactly what my limit was. But slowly… with every incident, my limit was pushed a little more. And a little more.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
29. “I think about how easy it is for humans to make judgments when we’re standing on the outside of a situation. It’s easy when we’re on the outside to believe that we would walk away without second thought if a person mistreated us. It’s easy to say we couldn’t continue to love someone who mistreats us when we aren’t the ones feeling the love of that person.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
30. “Sometimes, even grown women need their mother’s comfort so we can just take a break from having to be strong all the time.” — Colleen Hoover, It Ends With Us
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Final Words
I hope you found these It Ends With Us quotes insightful and inspiring. In case you haven’t, I recommend reading this brilliant book that touches hearts.
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